Learning how to treat a girl right is one of the most important things any guy can do.

Now, I don't mean that I ever treated girls disrespectfully; but I certianly had a lot to learn about how a guy is supposed to act. My mother explained, for example, that as a sign of courtesy young men should (1) walk ahead of their date in a darkened theater or room, (2) walk on the outside of the sidewalk, next to the road, (3) stand when a girl the same age or a woman enters the room and stand when she leaves, (4) wait until the women have been seated (and help them be seated if it is a formal date) before seating myself, (5) don't start eating before your date, (6) always thank a girl after a dance or date, and (7) opening car and building doors and is a sign of respect.At first I suspected my mother's suggestions for dating etiquette were out-dated - or worse, that they were some kind of female conspiracy transmitted from generation to generation in order to control guys. After I dismissed the conspiracy theory I selfishly thought that if guys did all those nice things for girls, we would be the only ones doing all the nice things. "What are they doing for us?" I thought selfishly. Girls usually aren't the ones to ask us out on a date - or have to deal with being turned down, and they don't have to keep standing all the time, or open doors for the boys.Because of my suspicions and selfishness I was undecided about whether I even wanted to try my mother's ideas. But I soon learned that there are some time-honored ways for young men to act, and that young women usually like to be treated in those ways. When people go on dates there are doors, cars, dances, meals, rooms, introductions, and movie theaters. Each of those items represents a potentially awkward situation if the guy doesn't know what to do - believe me, I know from experience.One such experience came at one of my first dances. Somehow I'd gathered the courage to remove myself from the wall and ask someone to dance with me. The girl I asked actually said, "Yes," and suddenly I found myself out on the dance floor feeling rather uncomfortable. Fortunately, however, some of my friends had found partners also and joined us. As we danced, my friends and I made comments to one another and before I knew it, our talking had turned into a full-fledged conversation that excluded our partners. Immersed in the discussion, I became oblivious to the young lady I was dancing with and somehow drifted off of the dance floor without even realizing it. Back at the wall again I glanced out at those still dancing and, to my embarrassment, saw my partner out on the floor, alone. An awful feeling settled in my stomach. I wanted to do something, but I didn't know what or how to even go about it in an awkward situation like this. So I did nothing. That night, I decided that some of my mother's ideas might be worth trying.

As I did so, the first thing that happened was unexpected. The girls I went out with began to think I knew what I was doing and relaxed around me. The nervousness I sometimes felt disappeared too, and I started having more fun. The more we relaxed, the easier it was to talk. Talking comfortably might not seem very important, but it is the way friendships and liking begin and continue. By communicating well, I also began to get to know girls better.I'll admit that when I first started dating, I wanted to be seen with girls who wouldn't tarnish the reputation I thought I had to protect. However, after spending time with some young women, having long talks with them and my mother about many things, I found out that girls could be friends without any physical relationship. In fact, some of the dates I enjoyed most were with girls who were fun and didn't worry about trying to make boys like them.I soon found, though, that I felt better around and preferred the company of some young women over others. After talking about it, my mother suggested that I needed to learn how and why I got along better with some than with others because it would help me when it came time to get more serious about finding someone to marry. So I learned to be observant on a date, to think about why I did or did not feel comfortable.I began to look at those I went out with for the characteristics I thought important, like how well they communicated, their sense of humor, what they believed about religion and what they thought about themselves. I didn't think much about it then, but I know I was storing up ideas. More important, I also found out that most girls start out wanting to have genuine, fun friendships because they are evaluating young men too. What's more, as we evaluate others, we're also evaluating ourselves. Most people feel complimented by genuine interest and questions that give them an opportunity to talk about themselves.

My willingness to treat a young woman with genuine interest and to stop trying too hard to impress her helped me discover that I was often guilty of prejudging. I found after talking to some girls that what I had thought about them at first was later proven untrue.Women deserve the respect of men. Both men and women are warmed by it and helped to feel secure. In an age when there is much concern about equality of the sexes, some women are receiving unequal amounts of rudeness and disrespect. Many men are using the idea of female equality as an excuse to neglect courtesy.

It never occurred to me as a young man that if a boy treats a girl like a queen, he is raising himself to a higher level too. All men can learn honest courtesy. And all men can be known as "good dates," not because of their social standing or good looks, but because of the respect and kindness they show to those they date.

As you fight the good fight of faith today, remember  this. Your mind is where the battle will take place. Whatever you allow to captivate your mind will rule your life. Will it be the Word of God or the lies of Satan? The decision is yours. If you want the Word to reign, make up your mind now and resist the devil when he come to plant doubts within you. Refuse to surrender to the circumstantial pressure he brings your way. Decide at the onset that you will not succumb to this trial. Dig your heels in and stand immovable upon the promises of God. When thought some that are contrary to God’s will, cast them down. And above all don’t worry. Worrying is meditating the thoughts of Satan. When you recognize you are worrying, stop it immediately. Replace worries, fearful, and doubtful thoughts with the Word. Be assured, Satan will continually try to tell you that your situation is hopeless. He will persistently peddle doubt, defeat and discouragement. But if you won’t allow him to sell you his goods, his commission will be zero. If you don’t buy his lies, he can’t cause them to come to pass in your life. God has promised that He will always cause you to triumph in Christ. You are guaranteed victory over any adversity you face today. Make up your mind right now to be a winner and you’ll spread the knowledge of victory in Christ everywhere you go.

Where should i start? the mooncake festival celebration? ok... anyways, our parents had a belated mooncake festival celebration at someone house, because of the free food, we eventually go for it. But after the eating and stuffing food into our stomach, things went bored.. especially seeing those kid playing around with lenttern. So, we walk around the neighbourhood. The night was silent, but then was mess by us.. The night was fun, get to drive my dad's car around the neighbourhood without his notice..:p

Wow, its been a while since my last update. Life was full of struggle this year. E06 was fun, especially the concert. But didn't get to join the party due to media duty. So cant fully enjoy. The battle at Bukit Cahaya was fun too. But sad thing was rain pored heavily. Sigh.. One thing that i still cant get it is, wat can one life do? I mean, to me its seems like i'm stuck in the moment.. Hope someone can tell me about it. PMR is getting closer and closer.. Study non-stop, have swolen eyes.. sigh.. Anyway, after PMR, the real fun will began..